Monday, September 12, 2011

Babies!

Today we attended baby Eli's bris.  It went off without a hitch, which is exactly what you want at a bris.  There was plenty of family and friends, and while the mohel and rabbi spoke about the baby, you could see people overwhelmed with emotions.  Later my mom and I talked about it, and various friends had come up to each of us to tell us what was on their minds; mainly families that are far away, both physically and emotionally.
Tiny baby Eli in his grandma Jane's arms, with his family looking on
Yesterday I hosted a baby shower at my house for my friend Alex. She was supposed to be 36 weeks pregnant at the shower, but baby Bianca had other ideas and was born 2 weeks ago!  Fortunately Bianca is perfectly healthy and already home from the hospital, so we celebrated without worry.
Alex (far right) with friends
It seems like I know so many people who are pregnant... or trying to get pregnant... or just had a baby.  Seeing Eli today, and holding him, made me realize that my boys, even though I call them my babies, are truly not babies anymore.  They're little boys!  I don't even remember what they were like when they were so small.

I do remember the anxiety, the lack of sleep at night, the trouble with breastfeeding, and the constant newborn pooping, but it seems like ages ago that they could fit in one hand and snuggled up on my shoulder.  I want to get pregnant again, and yet I'm not ready.  Eric and I are both thoroughly enjoying this stage with the boys.  They have great personalities, they're very loving, playful, curious, and sweet.

It feels like Asher has had a growth spurt.  He seems so much taller and heavier, noticeably more so than Benjamin.  Pants seem shorter on him, and I have a lot of shopping to do to get ready for fall and winter.
me holding my blond-haired Bear baby
Asher checking out his big cousin Trudi (whose nickname is also Bear!)
We are trying to enjoy these last few summery days, with walks and jogs, and dips in the pool.  I am worried that the winter will be long, cooped up in the house with two energetic toddlers.  I see lots of play dates in our future.

My health has also been on my mind this past week.  Over the summer, I noticed lumpy lymph nodes in my neck.  I went to the doctor, and she said it was probably nothing, but she took some blood to check for mono.  My bloodwork was normal, so I went back again on Friday.  She sent me for a chest x-ray, which made me very anxious.  Fortunately, my doctor called this morning and said that everything looks just fine.  I spent the weekend worrying that it might be cancer, and then what would I do?  I am not usually prone to hypochondria, but I've also never had undiagnosed symptoms.  In any case, everything is fine, which is a relief.

Monday, September 5, 2011

cape cod vacation, and more

I cannot believe how long it's been since I wrote an entry!  I missed the boys' 17 month birthday because we were getting ready to go on our annual vacation to Cape Cod.  Hurricane Irene was on her way, but we decided that we would get up there ahead of the storm and be there as soon as it passed so we could start having fun as soon as possible.

The hurricane itself was pretty much nothing on the Cape.  There was some wind, but no rain.  At one point the sun was even shining!  
Benjamin's hair blowing in the hurricane wind
We lost power around 4 pm on Sunday.  We didn't think the power would be out for long since the wind didn't seem too awful.  We went out to dinner on Sunday night, and the boys were wonderfully well-behaved.  No one seemed too worried about the storm, and as we drove home from the restaurant, we could see lights on almost all the way to our house.  

We had a great time playing trivia in the candlelight, and we even got my mom to play with us, which is incredible, since she has a general rule that she won't play games.  We laughed so hard, and it was so nice to be engaged with each other, not each involved in our own books, computers, or the TV.  The power flickered once while we were playing the game, and then came on for a few minutes around 11.  I really thought the power would be on by the time we woke up.

But no such luck, the next day there was no power and not a flicker of anything.  My dad managed to get a generator going, so we had the fridge on and running water, which made the situation easy to tolerate.  That night we grilled food for dinner, and then played Uno by candlelight (we couldn't get my mom to play games two nights in a row, though!).  

The next morning Eric and my dad took the boys on a bike ride to the donut shop and left the ladies in peace and quiet.  It was a beautiful day, and we were sitting outside in the sunshine when the power came on!  We celebrated by making coffee, we were all in wonderful moods.  And then the power went out.  My mom, sister and I took the boys to the pond to swim, and while we were out, the power came back on, this time for good.

The week was busy, and it just flew by.  We went to the pond, and to the beach.  The boys didn't love the water, and swimming, but they did love running around, and would always go up to other families and children and stand there until they were noticed.  They borrowed lots of toys, and made new friends wherever we went.  I admit that I did look at the adults who didn't have children, who were lying out and reading with some envy, but I wouldn't trade my boys for anything.  I loved watching and experiencing the world through their eyes.  

The biggest problem on our trip was sleep.  Things started out just fine, but then Asher remembered that he knew how to get out of the pack n play, and it went downhill from there.  Naps consisted of Asher jumping out, running around the room, occasionally throwing things at Benjamin while was trying to sleep, climbing in Benjamin's pack in play with him, and pulling over furniture.  Oy!  So we went down to 1 nap a day, and would stay busy all morning, then drive home and hope they boys would fall asleep in the car.  Nights were another issue altogether, and by the end of the trip I really was ready to come home and get the boys back in their cribs.

My parents and my sister all commented that my boys are exhausting, and that they were eager to get home and have some rest.  My sister has not always been understanding of what my life is like with children, and I think this vacation gave her some perspective.

At the end of the trip, Eric had planned to drive up to Maine to visit his family and help his brother.  On Sunday morning he asked how I would feel if he took one of the boys up with him.  My initial reaction was "No way!", but everyone else thought it was a good idea, so I acquiesced.  In the end, I think it was a good idea- Eric's family doesn't get to see the boys frequently enough, and it is much, much easier to be a single parent to one toddler than to two!

On the way home from the Cape we went through Providence and got some dinner.  Asher walked around Brown, and we went by my freshman dorm.  Asher loved it!  He loved all the different people he saw, the musicians in the street, and especially all the young ladies.  Asher is quite the ladies' man already- while we walked he would cross the sidewalk to smile at and approach all the college girls!  They all seemed quite taken with him, too.  Being back on my college campus, watching all the students come back for the school year and happily greet their friends made me nostalgic for my college years.  And yet it was surreal to walk past the door I used to enter my freshman dorm all those years ago holding the hand of my beautiful son.  I know I never imagined what my life would be like at this point, and while I miss the excitement of a new school year, I am more than content with the life I live now.  

In the car on the way home, I watched Asher sleep and thought about how perfect and beautiful he is.  Some people are blessed to have one perfect child, and I have two!  How can I be so lucky?

Today was also an exciting day- my cousin went into labor and delivered her first child, a baby boy!  We went to the hospital tonight hoping to meet him, but he was in the nursery getting a bath.  He is small and very cute.  Asher raced up and down the hallway while we waited.  It felt like just yesterday that I was there after delivering my two boys.  We saw one of the residents who helped with the delivery and said hello- she said that both Asher and I look great!  

My day of being a single mom is over, and Eric and Benjamin should get home tomorrow afternoon while I'm at work.  It is so quiet with just half the family, and I miss my other half so much.  I can't wait to hug and kiss Benjamin (and Eric, too!).

I will post some pictures from our trip once Eric gets home with the camera, I haven't even seen the photos we took but I'm hoping they're cute!

Asher started saying "na, na," which he used first just to nurse, but now just means "give me a drink!" They are imitating sounds and words more now, which is good.  Benjamin is also starting to say "more" when he wants more food.


Tuesday, August 23, 2011

book worm!

Asher reading with daddy
All of a sudden, Asher has started to love books!  We have always had books around, but up until recently, they mostly got treated as chew toys or were ignored completely.  Now Asher will pick up a book and bring it to us, and sit in our laps while we read to him.  His favorite books are "Goodnight, Moon" (especially the page with the 3 little bears sitting in chairs), "Brown Bear, Brown Bear, what do you see?" (his favorite page is the purple cat), "I Love You, Little One" (as seen above), and "The Poky Little Puppy."  It is a pleasure to read to him, have him pick things out on the page, and I will make animal noises and he will try to imitate me making them.  Eric and I are big readers, so what a relief that our children are starting to love books, too!

Saturday, August 20, 2011

day trip to DC

Hmmm.  I didn't realize til seeing this picture that Dad and I were also twins!
Today we (Eric, the boys, my parents, and I) took a day trip to DC to see my dad's parents.  I have to say, it was pretty exhausting!  We left right after breakfast, and after dealing with traffic, made it to DC in time for lunch.

The boys were not interested in eating, except when Asher bit Benjamin's finger, which made Benjamin cry.  Eric and my dad ended up walking up and down the sidewalk with them while the rest of us scarfed down our lunches.  I would say conversation was minimal, at best.

My grandparents' apartment was far from childproof, but the boys managed to find a broom and a dustbuster to play with.  This meant following them everywhere, because they would swing the broom around and come very close to knocking over things like lamps and breakable tchotchkes.  

Fortunately we had swim diapers in the car, and there was a pool at the apartment complex.  Eric and I took the boys for a swim- there was a little kiddie pool, so we didn't have to get in.  I did get completely wet, though, between the splashing and holding wet children.  But the weather was perfect and the boys had a good time playing, waving hello to every person lounging by the pool, and making mad dashes for the big pool.  

Then we got in the car and headed home- so we probably spent about 6 hours driving and 2.5 hours in DC, but we hadn't been since my grandmother's party in November, and my grandfather's health is not wonderful.  We're not sure how long my grandparents will be around, so every visit counts.  I think my grandparents were tired just watching us take care of the kids, because they made a few comments about how efficient I seemed to be, and how much energy I must spend taking care of them.

For a treat, we stopped at a little creamery in Delaware on our way home.  The ice cream was so good!  There was a seeing-eye dog there (he was off-duty) and Asher was in love with him.  Asher was petting him, hugging him, crouched down with his arms around the dog and his cheek on the dog's back.  It was really adorable. I hope the boys never ask me for a dog- as much as I can enjoy another person's dog, I don't think I could handle a high-maintenance pet in addition to twins.  Neither boy really ate ice cream (how can my children not want ice cream?), but they enjoyed the break and time out of their car seats.  

We got home and gave the boys a late dinner, then to bed with them.  Other than a bike ride in the morning for Eric, we have no plans tomorrow- just the way the weekend should be!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

a bear escaped!

watching tv. what good is a brother if you can't sit on him?
We always separate the boys at nap times, since Asher tends to nap and Benjamin tends to not-nap.  We have Asher in the pack n play in the guest room, since it is at the top of the stairs and he is a deeper sleeper, and will sleep through whatever noise and things are happening down stairs.  Even though there is no monitor in there, I hear him when he wakes up because he tends to kick around in the pack n play, or open the dresser drawers.  When I go up to get him, he is usually standing or sitting in the pack n play, and gives me his huge snaggle-tooth smile.

This morning I went to get him, and I opened the door to the guest room, peeked in to see the pack n play... empty.  I pushed the door open a little more, and there stood my little Asher Bear, smiling proudly because he had escaped his cage!  Apparently now that he has discovered this new skill, he is all done sleeping in the pack n play, and only wants to climb out.  This is a problem, because we are leaving shortly for a vacation, and we planned for him to sleep in the pack n play!
practicing his karate kicks
We had a pretty good weekend- we went to the zoo with Meema on Saturday (and forgot to take the camera, dopes), went swimming, and Eric and I went out for a fancy grown-up dinner on Saturday night.  It rained on Sunday, so we went to Ikea.  After afternoon naps, and after the rain had stopped, we went to the playground and had it all to ourselves.  The boys were slipping around a little, and Benjamin thought a wobbly Asher was the funniest thing he had ever seen.  Every time Asher wobbled, Benjamin laughed hysterically, his big, adorable belly laugh.  They get more physically adept and brave every time we go!

I think Meema is planning to treat them to a gymboree membership.  As fall approaches and we have fewer outdoor activities, we will need an indoor place for them to get their energy out, so hopefully that will be the answer for us.

And happy birthday (tomorrow), Memere!  We miss you!

Thursday, August 11, 2011

day-to-day

Our day-to-day, week-to-week routine has stayed the same for a while now.  I don't know that anyone cares about it, but I wanted to record it for myself.  Things work well, and the time seems to fly by.

Our general daily schedule is:
The boys wake up sometime around (or before) 7. If they are up before 7, we leave them in their room and they make noise at each other and I hopefully sleep through it.

At 7, we get up and the boys nurse.  We used to nurse and snuggle in bed, but the boys are too active for that now, so we usually nurse down stairs.  Sometimes Eric puts on PBS for them, but they don't seem to care or pay attention to the TV.

If the weather is good and we don't have physical therapy for Asher, we often go for walks or jogs before breakfast.  We will walk with our neighbor and her daughter and dog, or jog just the 3 of us.  While it wouldn't be my preference to jog before I eat anything, it is sometimes the only time of day that's cool enough to do it.  The guys don't seem to mind it either.  I love the fresh air and watching the wind in their hair as I jog.

Breakfast is usually around 8 am.  Their breakfasts are french toast (Saturdays), pancakes (some Thursdays), toaster waffles, peanut butter toast with jam, or cream cheese and jam on cinnamon-raisin bread.  Then they have fruit and milk.

After breakfast, we all play a little, and then naps start around 9.  Asher is always ready to nap, and goes right down.  Some mornings Benjamin will go to sleep right away, some mornings he will make noise for 45 minutes to an hour and then fall asleep, and some mornings he doesn't sleep at all.

If Benjamin isn't asleep by about 10, I'll get him up.  If it's a weekend, or Eric is home, we sometimes run errands.  Otherwise he can play by himself, or we'll play together until Asher wakes up, which happens around 10:30 or 11.

Once Asher is up, we often do something.  On the weekends or a Monday we might go have lunch and a swim by the pool with Eric (weekend) or Meema (Monday), sometimes Asher has occupational therapy at noon on Mondays, or we will run errands or see friends.

Lunch is around noon.  The boys eat leftovers from the night before, or peanut butter and jelly, or mac and cheese, or something easy!  With lunch they have a vegetable, a fruit, and milk.  Asher loves his vegetables, there are a lot of meals where he might reject everything but the green vegetables!

If Benjamin has not napped in the morning and we go out, he often falls asleep in the car on the way home.  Once we're home, Asher goes down sometime by 2 pm.

They are usually up from afternoon naps by 4 pm, and then we sometimes have a neighborhood play date, or Eric will finish work early and we'll go swimming before dinner.  I work two nights a week, and those nights the boys often go to the playground with Grandpa, who helps put them to bed on Tuesdays, or our friend Alyssa, who helps out on Wednesdays.

Thursdays always feel like the start to the weekend.  When I get home from work around 5, the boys rush up to me and give me hugs and kisses, and I am always so happy to see them.  Asher usually wants to nurse a few times after I get home.  By the time the boys have stopped clinging to me, it's time for dinner!  Most Thursdays we eat with the boys, since we've had dinner after they're in bed the past two nights.

Dinner is usually leftovers, or Eric makes delicious cheesy omelets for them, and then they have more vegetables and fruits.  Sometimes they will have dessert, like a graham cracker or animal crackers, or very occasionally, ice cream.

After dinner, it is bed time.  The boys love to climb the stairs themselves, and then they have a bath, get lotioned up, and into pj's.  Asher has stopped nursing before bed, but Benjamin will nurse, and then they are in their cribs to fall asleep.  They are usually in bed by 7:30, but we've had a few late nights recently after going out for ice cream or dinner at someone else's house.

Once they're down, Eric and I will often watch one of the few shows we can agree on, or read, or go on the internet and just have quiet time.  Usually Eric and I eat dessert to reward ourselves for surviving another day as parents of toddler twins.  Then Eric and I are in bed by 10:30 to try to get our rest before we wake up and do it all over again!

Between working 3 days a week and having busy weekends with family and friends, the weeks pass quickly.   I cannot believe that our summer is almost over!  In 2 weeks we leave for our family vacation on Cape Cod, and when that is over, so is the summer.  Our routine won't change, other than that our days of swimming at my aunt and uncle's pool will dwindle, and we will have to shift to indoor activities.  I am thinking of signing the boys up for gymnastics in the fall and swimming lessons in the winter, just so we can keep busy and not go crazy cooped up in the house.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

first pair of sneakers

Asher's shoe on the left, Benamin's on the right. On Eric's ipad.
Today the boys, my mom, and I went to the mall to buy the boys some new shoes.  I really wanted sandals, since somehow, in the past two weeks, they outgrew the ones I got them in the spring.  They grow so fast! I hadn't even realized how quickly it happened.  The other night, while I was working, Asher ended up in a pair of smaller pajamas, and they were like capris on him!  It turns out I missed the boat on sandals, and so we got sneakers that they can wear the next few months (I guess until they need snow boats, another upcoming purchase!).

Asher's shoe is a size 6.5 and Benjamin's is a 6. Their first steps in their big boy shoes were kind of tentative and wobbly, but then they took off!  It was definitely bittersweet for me; I am both excited that I have such good walkers (runners), and having trouble reconciling the little boys running up and down the hall of the mall with the little babies who used to sleep in my arms.

Here is what else is new with us- Benjamin has a bit of a fascination with cleaning.  He loves vacuums, brooms, and dustpans.  Here are some pictures of him with his favorite not-toys:
"I want YOU to clean this living room!"
"Did you say this spot needed some extra attention?"
The picture of Benjamin wiping the floor happened after the boys knocked my water cup off the table.  There was a big puddle on the floor, and I ran to get towels to mop it up.  When I got back to the living room, Asher was on his hands and knees with his face on the floor slurping up the water.  Benjamin was sitting next to him, laughing hysterically, and then trying to do it himself.  So there the 3 of us were, on our hands and knees, the two of them slurping and laughing, and me mopping madly to try to stop them from drinking floor-water.

The boys are in a phase of imitating everything we do.  Today I made a fish-face at Asher, which he tried to imitate by flapping his mouth open and closed.  I had him do it for my mom tonight, and she turned to look at him while trying to get something out of her teeth, and Asher instantly switched to imitating her by sticking his finger in his mouth.  This morning Eric had them both doing downward dog with him.

They also like sticking out their tongues at us if we stick ours out at them:
Looking at this picture of Asher, I think his torticollis is definitely improving.

Here is a picture of what started as a very sweet, brotherly hug. By the time I got back with the camera, this is what we had:
Asher is hysterical.
We have been lucky, these past few weeks, to get to see lots of old friends and family as they pass through town.  Last night we had dinner with friends of ours who live in Amherst- my friend from high school in Texas and her husband and 4 year-old daughter.  It is amazing to think how much our lives have changed since we met in 1994 in biology class.  Back then we were two nerdy high school girls who had never had boyfriends.  Now we're grown women, with each with a doctorate, husband, and child(ren).  I am sure we could never have imagined ourselves where we are now!