Thursday, May 20, 2010
There was an update I forgot to mention in my last post-- Asher has been able to turn himself over from his tummy to his back. He first did it almost two weeks ago. I had put him down for tummy time and ran to get myself some coffee in the kitchen. When I came back out to the living room, he was on his back! I put him back on his tummy and could see him working to do it again, but he didn't. Since then, he has rolled himself one other time. Maybe it will become a regular occurrence! Asher is very good at tummy time, and is very strong. Benjamin tolerates it for much shorter periods of time, and then becomes fussy and squawky.
Right now, Asher is the more patient of the two. Asher is often happy to sit in a chair or lie on his tummy and just move his arms and legs and look around. But if Benjamin is awake, he wants to be held. This makes things very difficult sometimes, because it is not possible to hold Ben and feed Asher at the same time. They are both awake more frequently now, but not always at the same time.
Of course I have the usual mommy worries about what if they're not eating enough (or, on other days, why are they eating so much?!?), why aren't they smiling at us yet, what if they are already delayed, etc. I am not sure if I should expect them to be a little late on early milestones, since they were 4 weeks early, but I will ask the pediatrician when we go.
We are looking into getting some help with the babies. My mom helps everyday, but I know she is eager to have more of her own life (I know how it feels! I miss my old life!). I am thinking perhaps a mother's helper in the mornings so that I can have some breakfast, pee, pump, and shower regularly. And then I am going back to work 1 day a week in July and we will need someone to come spend that afternoon and evening with the babies. It is hard to think of the money we will be spending on childcare that we don't have, but my mental health is worth it. I guess this is the money we'll spend rather than send me to therapy!